As I’ve mentioned in past posts, anxiety can be so negative. The thoughts of others, how you perceive yourself and what the media tells you. But I’m still here.
Blogging away about something I’ve become a bit of an expert about, with multiple things going off. If I saw myself doing this a year ago, I wouldn’t have believed it.
It’s over the past year that things have really changed for me. It’s because of my Anxiety. I’m coming out of the back-end of a hell of a year and things are really looking up now.
This time last year I definitely wouldn’t be saying this either. But it’s the first time in my life I’ve felt settled. No moving in or out. No one moving in or out. Stable.
It’s now I’ve started to concentrate on myself and Lee. We both deserve to and haven’t been for a long time. We both have things coming, things to look forward to now.
We are both caring people and would rather see others happy than ourselves.
More importantly, though, I’m focusing on myself more, something alien to me up to until recently.
You know what? I’ve been more successful because of my Anxiety. I’m happier than I’ve ever been because of it. I always say that anxiety doesn’t define me.
It doesn’t. But it’s given me strength and confidence when it was at its lowest. I see people for who they are now, and focus on myself more.
“Fearlessness is like a muscle. I know from my own life that the more I exercise it the more natural it becomes to not let my fears run me.” –Arianna Huffington
Now that I know the reasons for my behaviour, you know what I’m talking about, I have figured myself out a bit more. I’m more open, free and know who I am. For this reason, I am gaining confidence, knowledge and clarity.
Some might say this is something that comes with age. I’m old enough now to agree with that statement (begrudgingly I might add). I don’t particularly like that phrase but it’s true.
But at the same time, I wouldn’t be who I am today because of the past. Not everyone walks the same path as you and that is why it makes me who I am, and makes you who you are.
If I can realise my dreams, so can you! It’s a hard long walk ahead of you. But I’m going to help you. Plus, if I can do it, so can you!
So let’s discuss how.
What do you want?
Realising your dreams might be a tough one for you. But you can’t do it without knowing what you want in life. So the first steps to take is to decide what you want to work towards.
If you need any help, I wrote a post on goals here for a few pointers. Download my free printable as a guidance sheet to help you work through it – you can find it at the bottom.
So. Do you want to pay off your mortgage? Create your own business? Get that job you’ve been dreaming about but felt it was out of your limits? Or even pick up a hobby?
Remember to keep it simple and stick to just a few at a time. I know we all want amazing things for ourselves but being too ambitious will lead to disappointment.
Why do you want it?
Why do you really want that mortgage? Why do you want to take your business to the next level? Thinking about your dreams helps you to think through it rationally.
It makes it feel more real. There’s no point having these dreams and aspirations in life if you aren’t that bothered about it.
Once you’ve thought about your dreams in life, decide the one you’re 100% committed to. Write is down somewhere if you’re forgetful. Why not even put it in a frame and hang it somewhere?! It’ll feel much more real once you have it down there.
How are you going to do it?
Think about what you need to get there. The steps you need to take to reach your dream. Do you need friends and family to help you?
Maybe you need to network more and find people with similar interests?
Break it down into simple steps to make your life easier. Make your steps tangible as well. There’s no point telling yourself you’re going to make tonnes of money with your business when you don’t know how you are going to do it!
Do some research into how other people do it. Google search some ideas you’ve been throwing around as well. The more you know about how you’re going to get there, the easier it’ll be.
Use your weakness as a strength!
I wouldn’t even call anxiety a weakness. But it comes with certain traits that you might think are undesirable. For example, you might be a bit of a perfectionist.
You want everything you do to have your 100% attention. Some might say this is a weakness because maybe you can only concentrate on one thing at a time.
But it also means you give everything into your projects. You produce the best you can and this is such a great trait to have!
Turn your negative thoughts into something positive. Anxiety is a negative thing. It’s an illness. But it also makes you, YOU. You’ll have your ups and downs, don’t get me wrong.
But you’ll have ups more importantly and this is where you’ll shine.
It’s so easy to give up. You might feel like all the work you’re doing isn’t going anywhere when you don’t see immediate results. As a sufferer of anxiety, I like to see results quickly.
But I’ve learnt that it takes time and dedication. You have to work on it and put as much into your dream as possible. The more you put into it, the more you’ll get out of it.
Patience and practice are key to your success.
So when you feel unmotivated or uninterested. Go back to your worksheet or where you’ve written your dreams down. Read through it and remember why you wanted to start focusing on it in the first place.
I think it’s worth mentioning that you will feel like this sometimes. But that’s okay too, you know? You can’t be expected to have high hopes all the time so don’t put yourself down when you feel like this.
It’s completely natural and a human response to a situation.
Grab the bull by the horns
Sorry for the cheesy line there! But I love this phrase. I’m not saying go tackle a bull, though. But imagine your dream is sitting there waiting for you to tackle it (metaphorically speaking).
It’s so easy thinking about what you’re going to do but it’s a whole other thing going out and doing it.
So, as promised, here is your printable! Just pop your details in below: