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How to Be Social Without Letting Anxiety Overtake You

Being social is hard with anxiety. It created paranoia and stress. Learn these easy tips on not letting anxiety stop you being social!

Today we have a guest post by the lovely Caroline. I’ve enjoyed reading this and I hope you do too!

There’s no worse feeling than stopping yourself from socialising and growing in life due to fear. Social anxiety is prominent in today’s society, and it’s no wonder since the media puts so much pressure on how successful people look, act and live their lives. Teenagers and young adults are extremely vulnerable to this media coverage, as they’ve grown up in the digital age, making it nearly impossible to avoid.

For people who are susceptible to social anxiety, the world can seem like a scary place. Going to interviews, meetings, dates or social gatherings can seem as daunting as jumping out of a plane. The feelings of anxiety we experience are related to our ideas and concepts created in our minds about social conditions and interactions.

Simply knowing these facts isn’t always enough to change them since we already know we have a problem and can’t seem to control the emotional responses we have to certain situations.

Below are some effective techniques you can use to start tackling your feelings of social anxiety.

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An Apology, an Update and a Thank You

For anyone that has been following me and my journey to an anxiety-free life, this is a first time in a year I’ve had to write a post like this.

Every week I’ve been sharing my tips with you in gaining back control over your anxiety, with some fun bits along the way. Unfortunately though, you’ll also know that you never really shake it. It’s always there in the back of your mind. Anxiety holds a grip that is immensely hard to shake, and is probably the only constant thing in your life (like it is for me).

Just because I blog about anxiety, doesn’t mean I don’t suffer from it too, and the past two weeks have shown that. I’ve been silent. I’ve been pushing people away, and doing the bare minimum to get by.

Those who I work with will know that I’ve been suffering a bit on the work front. I’ve been putting all of my focus into my current job, but have found it hard to leave that stress at work.

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Is Your Routine All Over the Place? Fix it With These Easy Tips

Anxiety means you require normality in your life. Having a good routine helps with this. Learn more on getting your routine sorted here now!

If you have anxiety, having a proper routine can really help you. It helps lower anxiety and stress levels and allows you to cope better when a curve ball comes your way. Here are my top tips on getting that routine back in shape.

But why have a routine in the first place? As I briefly mentioned above, a good routine, that also helps you look after your well-being, is great for anxiety and other mental health issues. Anxiety tends to make you want normality in your life so that you know what you’re up to when (or at least that’s what it does to me anyway).

Although this may seem negative, as you’ll want to limit aspects of your life that cause anxiety, it does have a positive impact on your mental health too. We fly through life taking lots of granted and not always looking after ourselves. By having a good routine in place it allows you to plan out your day with intention and forces you to make time for yourself too.

In an effort to have control over my life, I have to have a routine. Any changes to it and it throws me off. But, because I’ve planned for changes, it helps me cope better when they happen.

So, here are my top ways that could help you fix your routine if you’re feeling a bit all over the place.

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Life Passing You By? Learn to Enjoy the Little Things, Anxiety or Not

Are you missing out on the simple pleasures in life because your anxiety controls you? Learn these tips on how to enjoy the little things.

Anxiety has this annoying trick where you forget the present and focus on the past or the future. You spend time on the larger, more catastrophic things in your life, and worry less about what is actually going on around you. So how do you stop this? How do you learn to

So how do you stop this? How do you learn to really enjoy the little things in life, the things that probably matter a lot more than you realise?

I’m going to tell you how. But first, a little story to help you put things into context (because I’ve also been there, done that, and bought the T-shirt).

Back in the day, when I didn’t know I had anxiety, when I thought I was normal, I was at university at one stage. Life was most definitely passing me by. The three years where every girl is meant to go out and experience life (life at university is pretty much like no other time in your life), I was a shaking mess.

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[VIDEO] How To Deal With Anxiety, Treatments and Final Thoughts

Happy Friday! If you’re part of my fellow followers, you’ll know that I did my first ever Facebook Live. It was a success! There were a few technical difficulties (like me having my tablet on mute, not opening the comments and not realising we weren’t even connected), but the overall response was great.

Thank you to everyone who watched patiently whilst I blabbered through my first live video. At one point there was 11 of you! Although to some this may seem small, knowing that 11 of you were watching at one point really helped me carry on. Knowing that I could answer your questions in person and give immediate help was a great feeling.

Look out for some more coming your way! I may even make this a weekly thing. It was actually really fun (despite the technical issues I had).

So, here are the bits that I covered (including the bits that aren’t included in the video due to no sound (lol…):

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