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Anxiety Tips for 2018

It’s a new year – a brand new fresh start. Yes, yes, I know I’m kinda late haha! But Anxiety has been a struggle for myself recently so just getting to work has been an achievement.

But anyway, it’s very unlikely that your anxiety will consider that we’re in a new year! Anxiety doesn’t ever really go away, you mainly learn to cope with it a bit better. So, with the new year comes some new ideas to help you manage your anxiety.

Fresh tips to start your year off the right way. Anxiety tips to help your mental health, well-being and wellness. Enjoy!

Look into essential oils

Essential oils are growing in popularity, that’s for sure. But essential oils have actually been around for centuries.

Not only this, but recent studies have shown that using essential oils help relieve pain and depression, and could actually be used in conjunction with other forms of pain/depression management (Dr link)

This is all good news for those with anxiety or depression. Although there is nothing wrong with prescribed medication (I have even said so myself), having an arsenal under your belt to help fight with you is always helpful.

In case you were looking for an essential oil burner, our shop sells them. Here are some (click the images to view:

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In addition to this and an oil burner, why not try picking up an essential oil pendant from our online shop? Not only will you reap the benefits of your essential oils, but you can use them on the go, too. Here they are (click images to view in our shop:

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Does a messy house equal a messy mind for you? It certainly does over here! Having a messy house can lead to clouded thoughts, plus there’s nothing worse than coming home after a long day to chores.

So if you’re feeling cluttered at home and with your thoughts, throw some stuff out. Anything you’ve not touched in the last six months can go. Hoarding is not great on the mind and throwing out old stuff can be surprisingly relieving. Here are some places to start:

  • Kitchen cupboards
  • Under the bed
  • Wardrobe/anywhere you store clothes
  • Fridge (gross – I know!) but it’s got to be done
  • The spare room

The key here is to be ruthless. If you have to think about the item you’re throwing away for more than 5 seconds, get rid. Keep in mind the 6-month rule and you’ll feel pleasantly clearer afterwards.

Fresh tips to start your year off the right way. Anxiety tips to help your mental health, well-being and wellness. Enjoy!

Try something creative

Have you ever considered something like drawing or painting, even if it’s just paint-by-numbers? Creative hobbies have been shown to really help those with mental health difficulties and give you an ideal distraction from your thoughts.

Now would be a great time to get started. Fresh new year = fresh new start, amirite?

You don’t need to spend a tonne of money on equipment, just pick up some paper and pens and get going. I started a bullet journal to help me stay organised, take care of my mental health, but also allowing me to be creative as well. So much fun and highly recommended.

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Fresh tips to start your year off the right way. Anxiety tips to help your mental health, well-being and wellness. Enjoy!

Consider CBT

Honestly, CBT has really helped me change the way I deal with worry, stress and anxiety. It really was the turning point for me in gaining control of my anxiety. Although I appreciate that it doesn’t work for everyone, if you struggle with negative thoughts, I’d encourage you to look into it.

CBT works by changing the way you think about situations and helps you to rationalise your thoughts. Although worrying is completely normal for us as humans, those with anxiety tend to worry excessively.

Personally, I know my thoughts can become irrational. But if it’s what you’re used to, it feels completely normal. But seeing a CBT therapist helped me see that the way I was thinking wasn’t right, and generally caused my thoughts to spiral. Not good at all!

Click here to read my experience of CBT and how it benefited me.

Fresh tips to start your year off the right way. Anxiety tips to help your mental health, well-being and wellness. Enjoy!

Start a gratitude journal

My final but not least point today could tie in with you trying something creative. I’d only discovered what a gratitude journal when one of my blogger friends wrote about one (link).

If you didn’t know, gratitude journals have a positive impact on those that keep one:

“According to a study by researchers from the University of Minnesota and the University of Florida, having participants write down a list of positive events at the close of a day — and why the events made them happy — lowered their self-reported stress levels and gave them a greater sense of calm at night.” (link)

I don’t know about you but to me, that sounds great, especially as I tend to struggle to sleep most nights!

Some of the positive impacts that keeping a gratitude journal/generally being grateful include (, 2014):

  • Gratitude improves psychological health
  • Grateful people sleep better
  • Gratitude improves self-esteem

These positives are just a few ways a gratitude journal will help keep you going, and lead a more peaceful and happy life.

So there you have it. The above tips will not only help you with your anxiety but your overall happiness and wellbeing. If you’ve so often put yourself last, why not make 2018 the year where you put yourself first? It’s NOT selfish, and very much needed.

Thanks for reading! Let me know what you think in the comments below 🙂

Simple Ways to Turn Your Home Office into Your Sanctuary + Download

Looking to create calm at home? Maybe you work from home occasionally? Here are some of the best tips to create a worthy workspace!

Looking to create calm at home? Maybe you work from home occasionally? Here are some of the best tips to create a worthy workspace!

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Having a home office is a dream come true for many. You can plan and organise your activities better without having to commute to work or iron your shirt.

However, that doesn’t mean you won’t spend an eight-hour shift at your desk immersed in your work.

Just like any workplace, the home office has rules and code. If you want to be successful you have to abide by them and perform your tasks just like in the usual office space.

On average, humans spend around 260 days at work on eight-hour shifts. Namely, during five days a week, you spend a good portion of the day completely dedicated to work.

Due to this fact, and many others which affect your free time like social events, sleeping and leisure to name a few, your office becomes the second home.

This is especially hard to maintain if your home is used both for work and living. In order to be efficient on both fronts, you have to make sure that your office space is not weighing you down.

With some small efforts, you will turn your home office into the sanctuary while still maintaining the professional stature.

Looking to create calm at home? Maybe you work from home occasionally? Here are some of the best tips to create a worthy workspace!

1. Welcome the natural light

Natural light has always been used as the cure for depression. It makes every space come to life and boosts productivity. Usually, in office buildings, employees would debate who gets to have a desk by the windows.

Not only will the daylight help elevate your mood, but the gaze outside will relax your tired eyes and clear the mind.

Nowadays, there are many shutters and curtain solutions which will help you get the maximum light without the blinding effect. Also, they will be an excellent style detail for your home office décor and give you privacy when you need it.

However, if you have to work in the late hours, use the LED lights which are soft to the eyes and imitate the daylight. These will keep you awake and concentrated even when you would rather be in bed.

Looking to create calm at home? Maybe you work from home occasionally? Here are some of the best tips to create a worthy workspace!

2. Decorate with plants

Plants are essential for reaching that Zen effect in your home office. They produce oxygen and are pleasing to the eye. Some are even said to collect all the negative energy emanating from the computers and other electrical devices.

You can create a sorts of the small Zen garden on the window sill or on top of your file cabinet.

Buy the prefabricated ones or place some soft sand in the shallow wooden box. Use a rake to create calming circles and decorate it with plants and stones for the full peaceful effect. This will help reduce your stress levels, clear your mind and even boost your creativity.

3. Add some lively colours

Colours can, in fact, influence the way you feel and your mood. Interior design is especially dedicated to creating special spaces with touches of colour or some flamboyant details.

Leatrice Eiseman, an interior designer, advises to use the blue colour for relaxation and reaching “a gentle, tranquil, Zen state of mind.” Her colleague, Brett Beldock believes that delicate and soft pink is “gentle and clean and optimistic — a fresh way of being Zen.

Looking to create calm at home? Maybe you work from home occasionally? Here are some of the best tips to create a worthy workspace!

But adding some lively colours is allowed to elevate the mood and bring out a few focal points in your office décor.

Attractive and engaging painting can positively influence your mood and provide a safe place to wander off in moments of tiredness. Flamboyant vase or textured cushions will give layers to the room and break the monotonous ambience.

In the end, it’s important that you are not bothered by the colours but rather calmed down and relaxed.

4. Create motivational messages

During the mid-week, you are already becoming tired and looking for ways to procrastinate. This doesn’t mean that you will actually slack off at work, but you will work at the slower pace.

This is perfectly normal and happens to the most of us, so it’s great to know that there is a simple solution. Place motivational messages on the walls as pictures, or framed on your desk.

Words of encouragement and wisdom have proven to motivate and strengthen the belief in success. Instead of giving up on a task or prolonging its finalization, have a look at the messages which can help you overcome that bump in the road.

Looking to create calm at home? Maybe you work from home occasionally? Here are some of the best tips to create a worthy workspace!

5. Create order

The order is the core of completing the work effectively and with maximum success. For office space, it’s also the mirror of your soul and state of mind.

In order to create a perfect sanctuary from your workplace, you have to concentrate on cleaning up and decluttering the space. Make room for your home office by using fast junk removal to take away the unnecessary clutter, and placing the rest in storage.

Benefits of cleaning and organizing your space are vast and with multiple positive outcomes like improved creativity and higher productivity rate.

Also, it will be less stressful to know where you keep the staplers or find the documents you need in just a few minutes.

Looking to create calm at home? Maybe you work from home occasionally? Here are some of the best tips to create a worthy workspace!

By the way, don’t forget to get your freebie as part of this post! It’s a self-care toolkit to keep you going when things get a little tough:


Plan your home office with dedication you would give to any space in your house. It’s important to create a sanctuary that will motivate you to be productive and keep you alert, without adding to your stress.

On the contrary, with more control over the décor than in the office building, your home is perfect to make sure that all your needs are met to the satisfaction of your business results.

Panic at the Anxiety Disco #8


Anxiety tips, videos, images and funWelcome to another Panic at the Disco edition! This series aims to show you a different kind of media than just text. Sometimes it’s nice to have a break from reading!

Today I have an image (although it does have text in it!) which I discovered on my usual Pinterest browsings. Here it is:

Depression signs and symptoms, mental health and wellbeing.

Kay who blogs over at Rose Minded and has lot of useful advice around mental health. This particular image was created by her, but felt it was useful to share. Want to read the whole thing? Click here now.

Sometimes, depression is hard to distinguish, with a lot of the symptoms relating to stress. But this image breaks it down nicely for you.

If you think you might have depression, definitely speak to your doctor right away. They are best suited to help you with a possible diagnosis and can work at natural routes or medicated routes.

If you want to read more on here, you can read a guide I wrote recently about depression. Click here to go there now.

And there we have it! Thanks for stopping by and see you as usual on Friday.

Love from Jess xoxo

[VLOG] Anxiety Question and Answer With a Special Guest!

Vlog feature where we helped raise money for local charities and projects across the East Midlands. Enjoy!

Hello hello!

Today I have a special video to show you. It’s taken quite some time to produce but it was well worth it!

As I know many of you like YouTube//video, this is an edited version of a Facebook Live I did recently. This time though we have a special guest! As it happens, my special guest is also called Jess. We’ll call her Jess DS for now!

If you’re in a rush and can’t watch the whole video, this is what we cover:

  • Do you go down the medication or natural route?
  • What helps us cope with our anxiety
  • General chit chat along the way!
Don’t want to miss the live versions?
You have two options as I tend to do live videos in both areas:

Join the private Facebook community I run:

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There we go.

Now, enjoy the video!

Thrive – A Mental Health App For Your Anxiety

With technology progressing at the rate it is, we’ve got much more choice in how we manage our mental health and anxiety. After all, anxiety/panic attacks/etc. can occur at any given moment and we won’t always be near a computer/another person to get help.

This leaves us in a sticky situation when things get a bit overwhelming.

This is where mobile apps come in. Being so busy all the time, we need something to help us on the go, when traditionally we’d have time to seek advice. I can’t be the only person that has probably hundreds of apps/games on their phone?

Apps for helping your mental health and anxiety. Thrive is a particularly good one! Have a read now to check it out

I’ve been meaning to download some apps to help me with my anxiety recently. We could all do with gentle reminders to look after ourselves when things get a bit tough. When I was told about Thrive, I decided to give it a go. This is what I found!

Downloading the app was as easy as it is for any other app. I had to register an account but again, this was very easy to do. Simple is always best in my eyes! After logging in, I was asked to answer some questions about myself and what my current mood was like.

Apps for helping your mental health and anxiety. Thrive is a particularly good one! Have a read now to check it out.

At the time of writing this, 99% of my answers were light green, so my result came back as feeling mild anxiety and no depression. Pretty accurate I must say.

Straight after my results had been given, and what impressed me though, was that it directs you to the NHS choices website to search for help. You had the choice on whether you took this up straight away (the app is UK based), or at a later point. I’ve not come across an app as yet that does this and thought it was a great feature to have.

When I’m worried about a particular issue, I often have a browse on the NHS site to get some advice. Very nice touch!

Apps for helping your mental health and anxiety. Thrive is a particularly good one! Have a read now to check it out.

So, once I’d gone through the questions, the app suggested some exercises to try to help ease my mild anxiety. It recommended slow breathing exercises, and riding a bike for thirty minutes.

The only problem with that is that I don’t actually own a ‘real’ bike! But I do own an exercise bike so this worked for me.You’d probably need to substitute biking with walking/running. Something worth bearing in mind if you wanted to give it a go.

Now that I was through the first part, I was given some more choices on what to do next. My choices were:

Breathing – practising slow breathing to help me feel more relaxed

Meditation – within this section I was given 5 more choices on which area I wanted to focus on.

Deep muscle – this involved tensing and relaxing my muscles which helps to lower anxiety levels

Self suggestion – this technique trained me to associate a word with feeling calm.

I already knew breathing techniques and meditation, so I thought I’d give deep muscle and self suggestion techniques a go.

The deep muscle exercise only lasts for around 4 minutes but I found it immensely useful + calming.

The idea is that you tense certain parts of your body, with deep breathing and studying how your body feels. I didn’t complete this with as much effort as I could have done, but I did feel much more relaxed afterwards.

The self suggestion exercise is shorter than the muscle exercise, but no less effective. You’re talked into an almost meditative state and have to think about certain words during this time. I found it very calming, and enjoyed being walked through this.

Both of these exercises have a lovely female narrator throughout. That definitely helped keep me on track as I know I can get easily distracted.

Apps for helping your mental health and anxiety. Thrive is a particularly good one! Have a read now to check it out.

There are other options in the menu that I only discovered after more playing around. There is a zen garden where you can play around with your on sandbox. You get to create your own garden and place objects. It’s pretty therapeutic!

Plus there was lots more to discover.

So, overall?


  • Easy to use – the menu is easy to navigate
  • Graphics are pleasant – I had a little helper with me that I could click if I needed any direction
  • It had some different ideas to help me with my anxiety – 2 of the 4 options I’d never heard of before and it was good to have more tools in my arsenal to help me relax.


  • Some of the screens were a bit glitchy (that’s it!)

Overall, I enjoyed using the app and haven’t uninstalled it just yet! If you’re looking for an app to help you keep calm, this is definitely for you. Plus, just watching the waves roll on the sand in the background was calming! Well worth a try.

(P.S. this isn’t a sponsored post in any way – I enjoyed this app and wanted to share with you.)