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What can you do to keep yourself motivated? How can you pull yourself out of that dullness you sometimes feel when the last thing you want to do is do stuff?
I’m going to give you a really easy step by step guide on how. This is for those looking for a little kick up the bum, and to remind you of everything you’ve achieved so far.
Mental health (specifically depression) can lead to extremely low motivation. It makes the little tasks much harder.
You don’t even need to suffer from depression, or any other mental health issue, to know what it’s like being unmotivated.
So what steps can you take to combat these moments? When you really couldn’t think of anything better than just sitting on the sofa?
Get a to-do list sorted
Some of the best things come from creating yourself a to-do list. When I was little, I used to write down everything I wanted to do on my to-do list.
I don’t know why I did it, but it happened. I would only give myself 5 minutes to do them as well. Definitely didn’t have my time management skills sorted at 8 years old!
But I distinctly remember racing around with new energy trying to get anything I wanted to be done.
Whether it was clean out my hamster’s cage, play with said hamster, or anything else hamster related (I LOVE hamsters by the way), I would do it.
Before that moment, I was just sat doing nothing.
Fast forward to now and my to-do lists are much longer and full of adulty-type stuff. I have much less energy as well so you won’t see me running around like a headless chicken now!
The thing is, though, getting that sort of energy going is hard nowadays, especially if you’re lacking in some serious motivation. So I’ve created this to try and bring something back for you.
I’m not saying it’s going to be a light bulb moment, but it might spark a little something in you.
So grab yourself a bit of paper now. Push yourself to do it. It won’t be that bad once you get started. If you need a bit of help, why not read this post I wrote on to-do lists? Might be useful 🙂
Give yourself more credit for the great things you’ve already done
You’ve had many achievements already in your life, without even realising it. You might also have regrets too.
I want you to focus on the good things so far. I don’t want you to dwell on your regrets. So for example, how about that time you trained someone on something?
Or that time when you really enjoyed, for example, creating a training guide?
These bits you did were inspired and motivated by you. Focus on what it was that got you going the first time. There would have been something that sparked this on you.
Having confidence in your actions will inevitably increase your motivation levels. Procrastinating happens from lack of motivation (insert link about procrastination).
Remind yourself about the ‘whys’ and ‘how’s’ to keep you going. Don’t like about the ‘what-ifs’ and ‘maybes’.
Ask for help
Asking for help can seem impossible sometimes. The last thing you might want to do when you’re feeling unmotivated is asking someone for help.
But sometimes the best moments and ideas can come from other people!
Take me for example, the post I wrote about famous people and mental health (read it here!) was inspired by a work colleague mentioning it to me.
He knew I write about mental health and it sparked his interest. In turn, this sparked mine.
Without that little spark (sorry for using the word so often!), that whole post probably wouldn’t have existed! Or it might have done, but way down the line somewhere.
I do say this a lot as well, but we are social creatures. Humans need humans to communicate with. Being unmotivated tends to make us kinda want to crawl into a little shell and ignore the world. We become hermits.
Now I love hermits, I really do, but this will do nothing for your motivation levels.
So bite the bullet and talk to someone. You don’t have to spill your life story or anything, just broach the subject with your mum or dad. See what advice/opinion they can give.
You’ll probably wonder why you were feeling so unsocial in the first place!
Create yourself little goals
Similar to a to-do list, goals keep your mind engaged and focussed. Lack of motivation comes about from a lack of direction and that’s why goals are great.
I promise you, the minute you start writing them down, you’ll feel motivated already.
*disclaimer! I can’t magically make you feel motivated but it might help :)*
Create yourself some nice goals to look forward to. What exactly is it that you want? Write it down and pop it somewhere that you frequent often. No, the pub doesn’t count!
Goals are really great for keeping that motivation going. If you want more info on why goals are great – read this post I wrote recently on them. It has pointers on how to structure them too.
Celebrate the small things
Lack of motivation can sometimes come about from a lack of appreciation. That’s why I’m telling you to celebrate your small wins!
Treating yourself once you’ve hit a milestone is a great way of doing this. Let’s say you’re trying to tone up or lose a bit of weight.
Once you reach your mini-goals, for example losing a few inches off the waist, celebrate! A bottle of wine/fizz will do no harm! How about a new piece of jewellery?
It’s just a little something to keep you motivated.
Now I’m not a competitive type of person. But for those that are, this would be a really great way to motivate you. You’ll do everything possible to get to your goal, and you get something at the end of it!
When I say celebrate the little things, it doesn’t always need to include buying something. Why not post to Facebook and let the world know? Or share it on twitter?
There will no doubt be others willing to congratulate on your successes and will definitely keep you going.
Again, it’s all about positivity and reinforcing that whenever possible. Want to know more about positive reinforcement? Read a recent blog post about it.
Visualise where you want to be
Visualisation is a really great way to keep that motivation going.
Imagining where it is you see yourself has a really powerful effect. It can make whatever it is you are working towards more real.
So the next time you’re feeling a bit unmotivated, why not start drawing what you want? Do a bit of research on the internet and find images that relate to you goal.
Print them out and stick them somewhere. Or how about creating a whole mood board? All you need is some paper, glue and a printer.
You can stick stuff to it whenever necessary, or when you find something relevant.
Hang the mood board somewhere really obvious as well. There’s no point doing it if you’re just going to shove it somewhere of insignificance.
Honestly – a little bit of visualisation works wonders for me. I need things stuck here, there and everywhere to keep me thinking about my dreams.
It’s not that I’ll forget, it’s just that I need regular reminders to keep me motivated.
Don’t beat yourself up
Sometimes, things go wrong. Sometimes you make mistakes. We’re all prone to this.
But beating yourself up about these things will do you no good. It can have a negative impact on your mental health and DEFINITELY make you unmotivated.
Those with anxiety, depression or another mental illness means you might succumb to negative thoughts. I know my anxiety makes me think badly all the time.
I really have to snap out of it. So that’s why I’m telling you to think now.
Please don’t beat yourself up about anything that might go wrong. Especially if it hasn’t even gone wrong yet!
You know what as well? Things will go wrong. But they create solutions too. They give you the opportunity to resolve issues as they come, and will improve you as a person.
They are actually very positive things, once you’ve got past the initial hurdle.
Do you know why companies are always asking for feedback? You know, those automated messages tell you that your feedback is important?
That’s because companies want to improve. How are they going to fix things if they don’t know what’s wrong?
This is the same for you. If you’re happily plodding along thinking you’re doing everything right, but you’re not, how will you know?
Turn around the negative into a positive. Allow yourself to accept that you will make mistakes and the motivation will follow you. You’ll want to improve.
The point of this post today is to make you realise that you are capable of anything you want.
Don’t let motivation stop you. Use these tips at times when you’re feeling like doing nothing. Push yourself through that unmotivated monster and fight back.