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Month: October 2017

Panic at the Anxiety Disco #4

Anxiety tips, videos, images and fun

Week four of Panic at the Disco and I have some updates for you!

Firstly – I am writing this from a NEW LAPTOP I HAD DELIVERED ON SUNDAY!! Why am I so excited about this?

  1. I’ve not owned a good laptop for about 3 years
  2. I can now play Sims 4!!!
  3. I now have the power to edit to my heart’s content and upload lots of new video for you, my lovely readers.

So, as you can see, I am mildly excited, as well as OVER THE MOON in knowing I can help you guys in the long run. See, if you read the last Panic at the Anxiety Disco, I mentioned the move towards video and YouTube. A lot of you have told me you like watching my tips on video (either live or edited), and I love producing this for you.

Want to see a picture of out?! If you didn’t, too bad! Here it is:

To give you an idea on how big this thing is, it covers my legs completely. Don’t get my wrong – I planned this but I’m still majorly surprised how big it is. Anyway – enough about me!

Let’s get onto the image I wanted to share to you today. The image below could be classed as an affirmation but today I want you to see this as a nice, gentle reminder:


This image is important for a few reasons.

The thing is, none of us should take ANY notice of what others think of us. But we do. That is completely normal as a human – we are always comparing and it’s a very normal trait to have. But that doesn’t mean it’s healthy.

The other reason? That it is NOT selfish to look after yourself and decide to be happy. We all deserve this, no matter what other people think of you. YOU are important – you matter, too.

So, I want you to take this reminder and know that you are worthy.

Speak to you soon my lovely!!

Jess x x


Thrive – A Mental Health App For Your Anxiety

With technology progressing at the rate it is, we’ve got much more choice in how we manage our mental health and anxiety. After all, anxiety/panic attacks/etc. can occur at any given moment and we won’t always be near a computer/another person to get help.

This leaves us in a sticky situation when things get a bit overwhelming.

This is where mobile apps come in. Being so busy all the time, we need something to help us on the go, when traditionally we’d have time to seek advice. I can’t be the only person that has probably hundreds of apps/games on their phone?

Apps for helping your mental health and anxiety. Thrive is a particularly good one! Have a read now to check it out

I’ve been meaning to download some apps to help me with my anxiety recently. We could all do with gentle reminders to look after ourselves when things get a bit tough. When I was told about Thrive, I decided to give it a go. This is what I found!

Downloading the app was as easy as it is for any other app. I had to register an account but again, this was very easy to do. Simple is always best in my eyes! After logging in, I was asked to answer some questions about myself and what my current mood was like.

Apps for helping your mental health and anxiety. Thrive is a particularly good one! Have a read now to check it out.

At the time of writing this, 99% of my answers were light green, so my result came back as feeling mild anxiety and no depression. Pretty accurate I must say.

Straight after my results had been given, and what impressed me though, was that it directs you to the NHS choices website to search for help. You had the choice on whether you took this up straight away (the app is UK based), or at a later point. I’ve not come across an app as yet that does this and thought it was a great feature to have.

When I’m worried about a particular issue, I often have a browse on the NHS site to get some advice. Very nice touch!

Apps for helping your mental health and anxiety. Thrive is a particularly good one! Have a read now to check it out.

So, once I’d gone through the questions, the app suggested some exercises to try to help ease my mild anxiety. It recommended slow breathing exercises, and riding a bike for thirty minutes.

The only problem with that is that I don’t actually own a ‘real’ bike! But I do own an exercise bike so this worked for me.You’d probably need to substitute biking with walking/running. Something worth bearing in mind if you wanted to give it a go.

Now that I was through the first part, I was given some more choices on what to do next. My choices were:

Breathing – practising slow breathing to help me feel more relaxed

Meditation – within this section I was given 5 more choices on which area I wanted to focus on.

Deep muscle – this involved tensing and relaxing my muscles which helps to lower anxiety levels

Self suggestion – this technique trained me to associate a word with feeling calm.

I already knew breathing techniques and meditation, so I thought I’d give deep muscle and self suggestion techniques a go.

The deep muscle exercise only lasts for around 4 minutes but I found it immensely useful + calming.

The idea is that you tense certain parts of your body, with deep breathing and studying how your body feels. I didn’t complete this with as much effort as I could have done, but I did feel much more relaxed afterwards.

The self suggestion exercise is shorter than the muscle exercise, but no less effective. You’re talked into an almost meditative state and have to think about certain words during this time. I found it very calming, and enjoyed being walked through this.

Both of these exercises have a lovely female narrator throughout. That definitely helped keep me on track as I know I can get easily distracted.

Apps for helping your mental health and anxiety. Thrive is a particularly good one! Have a read now to check it out.

There are other options in the menu that I only discovered after more playing around. There is a zen garden where you can play around with your on sandbox. You get to create your own garden and place objects. It’s pretty therapeutic!

Plus there was lots more to discover.

So, overall?


  • Easy to use – the menu is easy to navigate
  • Graphics are pleasant – I had a little helper with me that I could click if I needed any direction
  • It had some different ideas to help me with my anxiety – 2 of the 4 options I’d never heard of before and it was good to have more tools in my arsenal to help me relax.


  • Some of the screens were a bit glitchy (that’s it!)

Overall, I enjoyed using the app and haven’t uninstalled it just yet! If you’re looking for an app to help you keep calm, this is definitely for you. Plus, just watching the waves roll on the sand in the background was calming! Well worth a try.

(P.S. this isn’t a sponsored post in any way – I enjoyed this app and wanted to share with you.)

Panic at the Anxiety Disco #3

Anxiety tips, videos, images and fun

Welcome to another week’s edition of Panic at the Anxiety Disco.

Following on from the lovely mental health poem last week, I’ve got a new image I found during last week. This image is a great reminder for those who find affirmations useful:

Anxiety tips, videos, images and fun

The idea behind an affirmation is that the more you repeat something to yourself, the more likely you are to believe it. For example, if someone tells you over and over that you’re pretty, eventually you will start to believe it.

Affirmations can be really useful tools if you find yourself struggling. Keep repeating it to yourself and it may just get absorbed, no matter how stubborn you are.

I’m not one for spending a lot of time with affirmations but I found this one really moving. Mainly because it is so simple and helps you understand that purely breathing is a way of coping.

It made me feel like I can cope with that, whether I know it or not, and I’m not doing so bad after all.

Hope you like!

Jess x x

Think In NG – Helping People Through Mental Health Difficulties

Vlog feature where we helped raise money for local charities and projects across the East Midlands. Enjoy!

On my usual evening Facebook browsing’s, I made a snap decision to post this very blog on a local creative Facebook group. I’d joined the group some months back but didn’t think I’d ever post anything, mainly because it seemed more towards artwork than writing. I’d decided long ago that maybe I wasn’t suited to this group, after all.

I was wrong.

The thing is, I find that written work is often overlooked when it comes to the arts (or that it how I viewed it, anyway). Humans are visual creatures so we are more drawn to imagery than we are to text. The first thing we think about when it comes to art is usually paintings (again my own personal perspective).

But that decision to post this blog was probably one of the best decisions I’ve made for quite some time. I was invited to pop along to a local fundraiser which helps to raise awareness around mental health. The excitement was real!

The idea behind this event is that we would all watch pitches from people looking to raise funds for their projects. Imagine Dragon’s Den scenario. The winner would be given the £5 donations made by those who took part. We’re talking at least £500 worth. What a fabulous idea!

Well, as you can imagine, I jumped on the opportunity to take part in this. Not only do I feel strongly about ridding mental health of the stigma attached to it, but I am all for local projects and initiatives that help those affected by it.

The following video took me two days to edit and is my first production (go easy on me, okay?). I have to say I’m very proud! If you enjoy this video, I will be uploading videos to Youtube every week now, seeing as it’s so much fun.

Annnnnnd…. This is what happened.


Panic at the Anxiety Disco #2

Anxiety tips, videos, images and fun

Welcome to another instalment of Panic at the Anxiety Disco! Missed the previous week? View here now.

We’re into our second week of this new series where I’m sharing various forms of media relating to anxiety and mental health.

Today, I’m sharing a wonderful poem written by a colleague at work. Kelsey writes poems on topics that are close to her heart, mental health being no exception. Our work place has a huge focus on mental health at the moment so Kelsey shared this to get people talking.

It certainly worked!

Let me know what you think.

Mental Health will affect many of us, at some point in our lives, It’s not always obvious, its quite easy to hide through fake smiles and lies.

It cannot be seen, it may only be spoken, Nevertheless, it’s a medical condition, similar to a bone that is broken.

It comes in all different forms, depression, stress or anxiety. They’re all symptoms invisible to the eye, they aren’t so easy to see.

To someone suffering, it can be a lonesome place, So why not take just one moment, to offer a friendly face,

Ask someone, if they are truly feeling OK?

Thank you Kelsey for allowing me to share this! <3