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Do you ever feel lonely? Do you often feel like this? What steps can you take to improve your social situation?
I’m going to tell you right now. You, reading this, are about to learn what you can do if you feel lonely, and how to solve it.
Keeping the pangs of loneliness can be hard. Why do we even get lonely in the first place?
Some of us can be quite happy just plodding along by ourselves, comfortable in our own company. All we need is a good book, wine, music, or even just a bed.
I know I can quite happily spend every evening with the TV with a good film, food (sometimes wine) and an early night’s sleep.
But what do we do when we feel like a bit of human interaction? We’ve made steps to keep the world out, how do we then go back out there and let stuff in?
Will anyone even care?
They do by the way. You might not know it but there are people out there who would have no issue whatsoever having a chat with you.
They want to know about you and help you, even if it’s just a quick chat.
Even if you have a partner, you can still feel lonely. Sometimes we need a bit of interaction that isn’t our partner or family.
Maybe you’re thinking that the last thing they would want to do is hear from you.
Part of loneliness stems from a feel of rejection. I know that I get worried when getting in contact with people because I feel like I’ll bore them.
Or that they’re already busy enough to stay in contact with me. I have to really push away those thoughts and just do it anyway.
If this is the same for you, you have to do it. You need to have the willpower to do it.
So anyway! That’s enough of mother Jess telling you! What else can you do to ease that lonely feeling? WELL. Lots!
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Facebook chat and Facebook Groups
Most of us nowadays have mobiles or tablets. Not to mention laptops/PCs. The same goes for Facebook.
The great thing about Facebook is its social. You can choose how much (or little) time you spend being sociable on there.
So the next time you’re feeling a little lonely, why not get on Facebook? I know some of us aren’t massively interested in Facebook, but it is good for getting and staying in contact with friends.
Bite the bullet and strike up a conversation with someone. Make sure it’s someone you actually want to talk to, though!
These groups are great for any bloggers reading this and wanting advice/meet other bloggers.
Blog Engagement/Promotion Group
Blog Passion Project
Blog + Biz BFFS
Bloggers in Europe and Beyond
For mental health:
There are lots of Facebook groups that are specifically for different mental health issues. Here are two that I know of. Doing a search on Facebook will also bring up a few for you.
Depression and Anxiety Support Group
If you have a phone with a front-facing camera, whip it out! Skype is completely free to download and easy to sign up with.
Now, go get asking your friends, family, colleagues etc. what their username is. Not only is it great for instant messaging, you get to see people in person!
For those that struggle with technology (like me sometimes!), you’ll find this easy, I promise! It is quite simply plug and play.
If you do have issues, though, do a quick Google search and you should easily find answers to your questions.
I only discovered Twitter when I started blogging. Honestly, I love it! It’s such a social app/page. You have to do Twitter a certain way as well.
There is a sort of etiquette linked with Twitter. Don’t worry though I’m going to give you a few pointers!
If you’ve never used it before, you might feel a little overwhelmed by it. I know I did. But create yourself an account and use the search bar to find things you are interested in.
It’ll give you people who you might want to follow, as well are tweets you might enjoy.
Spend some time liking and following some people. IF you find something interesting, why not retweet it?
Retweeting means basically copying that tweet and sharing with your followers. Most people are thankful for the retweet and it gets you out there.
Before you know it, you’ll have lots of followers, and people to strike up a conversation with.
If you’re feeling a little nervous about talking to people you don’t know, just go for it. You’ve got nothing to lose!
You’ve also go Twitter Chats and Twitter Parties. Google them and see if there are any you can get involved in.
Honestly – I would highly recommend Twitter if you’re feeling lonely and want to talk to someone.
Oh, and if you fancy it, follow me on Twitter! I’d be happy to chat whenever possible.
To me, forums are kinda retro now. When I was younger, forums were the way forward when asking for advice for games and talking to people.
As far as I know they aren’t as popular as they used to be, but still good all the same.
A forum is a community of people who share an interest. It’s an internet based place to discuss and chat with other people from across the world.
There are forums all over the internet, dedicated to areas of interest. Again, do a quick google search for your interests, followed by the word ‘forum’ and you’ll find lots of results. I know there are some good ones for anxiety and depression.
Sign yourself up and get chatting away. Plus, they’re completely free.
If you’re looking for advice, forums can be really useful.
No More Panic is a good forum to go to for advice and chatter. I’ve signed up 🙂
Mental Health Forum is also a good one to have a look at. This one is for Anxiety in particular and also relates to depression.
The Depression Forum has lots of active members and some good threads to read through. It also covers other disorders too.
Read Heartwarming Stories
Have you ever seen those videos on Youtube showing acts of kindness? Or those stories/videos you read on the internet about rescued animals?
I must come across these at least once a day when browsing Facebook. I love them.
These are fantastic for really picking up your mood. If you’re feeling lonely but don’t want to put yourself fully out there right now, why not watch a few of these videos?
Although the rescue videos can be quite upsetting, it is always nice seeing these animals being given a new lease of life.
They will give you a nice distraction from feeling lonely and help this moment to pass.
Do something you enjoy
Another good tip for when you’re feeling lonely is to distract yourself by doing something you like.
The problem with loneliness is that it can strike at any moment. Plus, if you’re naturally an introvert, speaking to random people can be a bit daunting.
By doing something you enjoy, it’ll help take your mind of your feelings.
It’s not a quick fix, but it will certainly help you feel better.
So if you enjoy reading or watching TV, go and do it! I’m guessing that if you do get lonely, you’ll most likely be at home. It’s the perfect place to pick up something like this.
Just enjoy doing the act of something you enjoy doing. How about playing an instrument?
Now would be a great time to learn something new! Keeping your mind occupied might really help. I wrote a post here about what activities could be good for you if you suffer from a mental health issue.
Find a Social Group
For those that are feeling particularly adventurous, there will be lots of social groups in and around your locality to get involved in.
You can usually find local group either on Facebook, on the internet and possibly in a local paper.
You’ll be able to find something that suits you and find people with similar interests.
For those in the UK, Meetup is a really great website to get involved in. When you’re feeling brave enough, sign up and start getting involved.
Get involved with your friends and family
As well as meeting new people, why not spend some time with your family or friends? Now I know not all of us are close with or families and maybe not have many friends.
But having a conversation with a relative or friend might help you with those pangs of loneliness.
They may be able to offer you advice and help which you may not have considered before. I wrote a post on how to be more open recently that you might find interesting.
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Offer Your Services!
Why not help out some friends, your family or maybe a neighbour with any tasks they might want doing?
You might not want to but this could be a great way of getting yourself involved more and meeting some new people!
You could mow some lawns, drop off children at school, help someone with their homework, anything.
Even better than this, ask for a bit of compensation too! Not only will you get to do a few bits and bobs, you could earn a bit of money in the process! Great stuff.
For me, I love writing so naturally it made sense to try and land gigs writing articles. You can have a look at my portfolio for some ideas on where to approach if you like!
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